Conversations to Help Save Your Kids!

Jorelys Rivera, a 7 year old girl, was abducted Dec. 2 2011 after leaving the playground near her home in Canton, Georgia. Jorelyn had returned to her apartment to get sodas for her friends when she disappeared.

Her body was found days later. Police say she had been sexually assaulted, stabbed and beaten to death.

There is nothing positive or pleasant about stories like this. And as parents, we always assume these stories happen to others and could never happen to our children. But when crime happens, it does not discriminate based on sex, race, age, socioeconomic status, etc. And as Jorelys’ story shows, it can happen in a split second!…and just like that, our whole world can be turned around. The question you must ask yourself is: what can I do TODAY to possibly help save my child from a situation like this?

Here are some great tips, courtesy of
Top Safety Tips for Parents

  1. Make sure your children know their full name, address, telephone number, exact name of your place of work, and family emergency contact phone numbers.
  2. Know where your children are and whom they are with at all times.
  3. Tell them to check in with you regularly and if there is a change in plans.
  4. The “Buddy System” isn’t only for the pool. Ensure your children always take a buddy.
  5. Establish clear boundaries about places your children may go, whom they go with, people they may see, and activities they may do.
  6. Teach your children to trust their instincts. It is okay to say NO to an adult. Tell them adults should not ask children for help, and warn them that those who do may be trying to “trick” them. For example adults should not ask children “help me find my puppy?”
  7. If someone should try to grab them, tell them to make a scene; yell loudly “this person is not my mommy/daddy” and make every effort to get away by kicking, screaming, and resisting.
  8. Encourage open communication and dialog in your family. Develop safety plans together and practice “what if” scenarios. Teach your children to TELL a trusted adult if anything makes them feel scared, uncomfortable or confused.
  9. Practice with your children what they should do if they become lost in a public place. One of the best things they can do is to find a “Mommy” with children and tell her they are lost. Tell them to stay with her in an open area until you are found.
  10. If children must be home alone, consider installing a security alarm and make sure they know how to place a 911 call. Tell them that they should NEVER open the door for anyone and to keep all doors and windows locked.
It is important that you role-play with your kids! How else can you be confident in them executing safety tips if they are not practicing? NFL Team can’t win the super bowl without TONS AND TONS of practice! Practice with your kids on a regular basis…make these safety tips, and others, second nature to them!

Additionally: to the point of item “G” above…(“make every effort to get away by kicking, screaming, and resisting.”) – If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a million times:GET YOUR CHILD ENROLLED IN BJJ (Brazilian Jiu Jitsu)!!! I have every bit of confidence that Jiu Jitsu will continue to save many lives, as it has done so already! Start training them at home with home-based programs like Gracie Bully Proof Program …or take them to a local Jiu Jitsu Gym, for professional training, like Gentry’s MMA & Fitness!
1. Arm your child with knowledge (role play, educate)
2. Arm your child with self defense (Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is the #1 option out there!)
START TODAY! Imagine all the parents who’ve been victim for these crimes…imagine the mother of Jorelys Rivera….she probably has many things that she would have done differently with the benifit of hindsight – you have the opportunity to avoid those regrets NOW. Schedule time to talk with your child today and explore all options to helping keep them safe! 

Some additional tips for ALL people:

Parking Lot Safety Tips

  1. Park up front in well-lit, high traffic areas. Remember where you parked.
  2. Stay alert, ready, and aware of your surroundings. Predators are looking for distracted victims.
  3. Do not hesitate to request a security escort.
  4. Walk with purpose. While entering and exiting the vehicle make continuous eye scans of the area.
  5. Have keys in hand. No phone, no text, no ipod earbuds.
  6. Do not park next to persons waiting in parked cars or big vans.
  7. Valet when possible when driving alone or alone with children.
  8. Never allow someone to force you into a vehicle. Make a scene and fight at all costs.
  9. Check the back of your vehicle before you get in. Lock doors and leave. Ensure you are not being followed.
  10. Most important: Trust your instincts. If it does not feel right, it probably is not!

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