May times we are very 1 dimensional about this:
“I don’t mis-treat people”
But our responsibility is beyond ‘not doing evil’. After all, as Edmund Burke said:
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.”
Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat.
Jesus told of a traveler who was robbed, beaten and left him half dead. The men who did this were wicked and did a very wicked thing. But the Levite and priest allowed this evil to continue unanswered by doing nothing as they each “passed by on the other side” (Luke 10:31-32). Fortunately for the traveler there was one man, a Samaritan, who was willing to stand up for what was right (Luke 10:33-36).
When good men do nothing, they are no longer good. Many have the mistaken notion that good is merely the absence of doing that which is wrong. Not so! One is good not merely because he does no evil, but because he is actively working for what is good. (http://www.padfield.com/1997/goodmen.html)
So what does this mean for you in your every day life?
If you ask me, it means that you..YES YOU!.. have a responsibility to not stand idly by as others are being bullied or tormented or abused. But it goes even further than that! You have a responsibility to actively seek those who are in need of your love…your attention…your care. We all see them. Whether it is the quiet kid in school or the isolated girl at work or maybe the guy who never speaks or interacts at the gym. They are all around us every day. It’s your responsibility to engage them…no, not as an assignment from me, or from some ‘higher calling’ – but it’s your responsibility to actually CARE…to truly, genuinely want to spread great influence to others. Whether you are genuine about your love for someone or not – they will know. So, give some thought tonight to how you can truly help others in your every day life – but not because of this blog, or those quotes. This isn’t a homework assignment for you to fix something externally. It’s a homework assignment to check something INTERNALLY – and be convinced that you have the responsibility to not “do great things” but to “do small things with great love”!
Now, if you or your child or someone you know lacks self confidence or is in threat of bullying –as many of you may know, I’m a strong advocate of “The Gentle Art”: Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. I’ve written previously on some guidelines on how to Bully Proof your child! and I’m still a very strong advocate of this!
I’ll leave you with this great statement I read today from Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Black Belt Jason Scully (http://grapplersguide.com/), after seeing the above video, put it quite well also:
It’s at the early stages of our lives where we are molded into who we start to become. The people around us OR the lack of people around us, regardless of what country we live in, if we live in a nice home, have money, are poor, have both parents or don’t – that has a HUGE impact on the experiences we are exposed to and our personality that blossoms. You have more of an impact on those you are around on a regular basis then you can imagine. This isn’t just my world, I don’t want to live it alone, and I DON’T want anyone to have to feel like they are living it alone as well.
EDIT: There has been some speculation that this individual kid may have faked his story. Whether that is true or not does not change the core message. Lets not focus so keenly on individual stories, but focus on the overall issues of bullying. 🙂